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You Got This Equestrian – Tales of An Anxious Amateur and Hearing Loss


Welcome to You Got This Equestrian Confidence Series by Hayley at Red Bear Equestrian.

This week I am joined for part two by Nadia from Tales of an Anxious Amateur.

Join us while we talk equestrian and rider confidence alongside hearing loss and the impact this has.

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

Hayley x

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

Watch Nadias first You Got This Equestrian Video .

Watch the first episode and see where You Got This Equestrian started.

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You Got This Equestrian – Your One Task This Weekend. Building your horses confidence.

Happy Friday.

This one is a short one, but one I would love you to take action on this weekend.

We concentrate a lot on our confidence and how to build it, but what about our horses confidence?

So before you ride, after you ride, instead of or even while you are riding, take some time to work on your horses confidence.

Set up some scary obstacles, tarpaulins, umbrellas, halloween or christmas decorations, balloons, wood to walk over, footballs, radios playing music, whistles, mirrors, flags, let your imagination run wild.

You do not need anything special, just get creative.

Then allow time, you cannot rush your horse with this. They need to be allowed to explore and be reassured to build true confidence.

Supporting our horses to build their confidence helps us to build our confidence.

When we believe our horses wont spook, worry or similar we ride with a different attitude, that attitude breeds even more confidence in our horses which in turn effects us more.

Making this part of your routine, just five minutes three times a week, makes such a difference.

I would love to see some pictures of what you and your horses get up to, please share on social media and tag us @redbearequestrian

To find out where the You Got This Equestrian Series started click here.

Hayley x

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

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You Got This Equestrian – 10 Top Tips for Equestrian and Rider Confidence

I am so excited to be compiling some of the top tips that our followers shared with us as well as the tips that we use ourselves.

  1. Think of your confidence like a muscle. When you first start a new sport or take up exercise, your muscles are still, sore, they ache. However with small steps it improves and gets easier. Some days are better than others, some days you will over do it. Your confidence is the same. It requires small steps, time, patience and the acceptance that there will be good days and not so good days.
  2. Keep a diary. We often do not see our own success and progress. Simply as we focus on the negative. Keeping a note of our rides means you can look back and see how far you have come, celebrate the wins, no matter how small. When we see progress we are spurred on to do more.
  3. Keeping on the topic of seeing progress, so many of those featured in the You Got This series so far have talked about the power of video. Filming your rides and lessons means you can watch them back and not only learn from them but see what went well. Again we often focus on the negative, rather than all the positives, when you watch it back often you see it wasn’t as bad as you thought, and again celebrate that, celebrate your wins.
  4. Take the pressure away. Sometimes a week off either riding, in hand work, hacking, schooling, whatever it might be is just what you both need to reset. Then restart slowly. There is nothing wrong with a week of grooming and bond building.
  5. Breath! Honestly its the first thing to go wrong when you are worried or panicked. Practice taking slow deep breaths, when you regulate your breathing it also has a calming effect on your horse. If you find this really hard, try singing or talking or telling your horse a story. This forces you to regulate your breathing. It really does work. i have many times been seen riding around singing away or talking about what has happened in my day (yes to my horse).
  6. Phone a friend. Is there someone who could walk out with you, just be there, be on the end of a lunge line? Often just the reassurance of someone there (the right kind of person) helps us calm and also gives us someone to talk to, regulating our breathing.
  7. Remember the sayings you always heard when you first started. “Heels Down”, “Back Straight”, Boobs Out”, Don’t Look Down”, “Shoulders” “Point your hips where you are turning”…. all of those and more. Position does help. Easier said than done sometimes, but the right position helps us feel more in control and our horses to feel calmer.
  8. Try some ground work. It is a great way to build a bond, learn new skills, try out seeing scary things and teach you to relax. We wrote a blog on this previously here.
  9. Rides or any work with your horses do not have to last an hour! They can be 10 mins. Small, tiny steps, break it down and take it slowly. Ending each time on a high for you both. If that means riding to the end of the road and back, once around the arena and working up from there. Do it. There are no rules.
  10. Don’t rule out additional support. No matter if that is an instructor (and try a few until you connect with the right one), a trainer or a course that specialise in confidence building, hypnotherapy, mindset work, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). There are so many options out there. Asking for help is not a weakness it is a strength.

To find out where the You Got This Equestrian Series started click here.

Hayley x

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

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You Got This Equestrian – The Stories We Tell Ourselves.

Welcome to You Got This Equestrian Confidence Series by Hayley at Red Bear Equestrian.

This week join me as I ramble through this weeks thoughts on how our inner voice can hold us back and the limitations we bring ourselves.

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

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You Got This Equestrian – Groundwork, Trust and Bond Building.

We all know ground work is one of the key elements to building a bond and total trust with your horse or pony, but it is one of those things that we either love or hate. Plus for many of us either us or our horses have to be in the mood for it, then we have to have the ideas of what we will do, so often riding is easier as it takes less brainpower beforehand and less stuff to set up sometimes.

The last few times we have shared groundwork ideas they have proved super popular so I thought I would share a few more to inspire you for over the next couple of months.

Plus not all groundwork has to be done by adults, with the right instruction and supervision many of these can be done by children to build their bond with their ponies too.

1.Cross a bridge – Exactly as it says you just need to build a bridge, this can be from wood (although make sure its strong enough to hold you and your horse), it could be a tarpaulin, stones, bark chips, matting. Anything that is unfamiliar. This is great for trust building. However the key is to allow time and not rush. You need to allow your horse to explore, to take their confidence from you, your actions and your ques. If you can also add in a vocal aid you can then translate this confidence giving vocal aid into your riding to give confidence in those scary situations. As we all have those.

2. Go for a walk. Yes take them somewhere different in hand. Spend time allowing them to graze, sniff and see new things, to have new experiences. This is not only a good relaxation technique for you and your horse to just be together, it also creates that bond without any pressure. You can use this time to introduce them to new objects or situations. While grazing and relaxed, having a positive experience means what they are being introduced to will be more positive.

3. Water for play – find any water and just allow your horse to see what it does, try it, play in it. It could be a stream, lake, paddling pool, hose pipe. Whatever you have access to. Often they love for you to play in it to and make this into a shared experience. Water fights between my kids, horses and a hose pipe are a firm favourite here as much as it sounds crazy they all love it.

4. Worming or sedating practise – We have all been there trying to get that syringe into our horses mouth, angle it the right way, push the plunger……and our horse throws it all over us! Now is a good time to practise this. Fill an old (clean) syringe with something yummy (ours love homemade apple sauce) and show them it isn’t really so bad, or try putting it in the middle of a carrot or apple to get them used to opening their mouths .Then work on reducing whats around it or in it and adding in a vocal command until you can put the syringe in easily without any aids. Always make sure you reward their efforts.

5 Learn your horses normal vital signs – their pulse, temperature, breathing, etc and teach them that it is OK to have this checked. Often this is only checked when there is something wrong and our horses then associate it with them being hurt or unwell. Making this into a normal fun thing to do, again rewarding their efforts will make life so much easier if they do get hurt or become unwell.

6. Teach them a trick just for fun – Our horses are meant to be fun, otherwise why do we have them. There are so many tricks you can teach them all with varying difficulty, get on YouTube and find something to try out. One of ours, Tom pulls funny faces on command! A totally useless trick but very funny when the kids have friends round. We have also recently started learning about liberty and how we can use that alongside natural horsemanship, so I will keep you updated on that.

I would love to hear some of your top groundwork tips too so head to our instagram page and drop me a message, I cannot wait to hear from you.

Hayley x

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Nadia from Tales of an Anxious Amateur talks with Hayley on You Got This Equestrian

Welcome to You Got This Equestrian Confidence Series by Hayley at Red Bear Equestrian.

This week we welcome Nadia from Tales of an Anxious Amateur.

Join us while we talk equestrian and rider confidence and our journeys.

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

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Positivity and Self Talk

One thing that has struck me through recording all of the You Got This Equestrian series so far, is how one technique appears to be used time and time again.

Affirmations. I Can Statements. Positive Statements. Capability Statements.

Whatever you want to call them, their power the power is obvious.

These statements work because our brain, our subconscious, believes what we tell it.

So when we are saying that we believe, that we are emotionally connected to our words, our subconscious has no choice but believe it.

They also work because when we speak out loud not only do we gain a deeper connection, as we are hearing the words in our own voice, but our breathing naturally regulates which takes us from panic and anxiety into a calmer more controlled state.

Couple all of this together and you can see why they work.

So what could you say?

  • -I am calm and in control.
    -I can do this.
    -I am having the most amazing the most amazing ride.
    -My horse is relaxing.
    -This is going to be awesome.
    -With every rider we get better.

However you can sometimes find that when you’re using these statements your brain automatically jumps in and undermines you.

This is our own self sabotaging at work, I will talk more about this at another time.

If you find this happening, one useful thing to try is to just use the main powerful statement.

For example: amazing, relaxing awesome, power, release, strength……

Using these words over and over again changes you’re mindset as its not a peesonalised statement its a power word.

Once you start to change the way you view your ride, you start to improve your belief within your own abilities.

You can do amazing things.

Sometimes all we need is self belief to to realise what we’re capable of.

I would love to hear some of the techniques you use, drop me a message on our Instagram or send me an email.

Hayley x

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Nikki Welch Clumsy_Eventer_Confessions talks with Hayley on You Got This Equestrian

Welcome to You Got This Equestrian Confidence Series by Hayley at Red Bear Equestrian.

This week we welcome Nikki Welch Clumsy_Eventer_Confessions

Join us while we talk equestrian and rider confidence and moving forwards..

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

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Winnie By Wheels talks with Hayley on You Got This Equestrian

Welcome to You Got This Equestrian Confidence Series by Hayley at Red Bear Equestrian.

This week we welcome Winnie By Wheels

Join us while we talk equestrian and rider confidence, set backs and moving forwards, Winnie is an inspiration to all horse riders.

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me every week for more inspirational stories, hints and tips to support your equestrian confidence journey.

Confident rider, confident horse.

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Laura from Ginger and Tonic Equestrian talks on You Got This Equestrian Confidence

You Got This Equestrian is back. Our equestrian confidence series.

Join me as I chat with Laura from Ginger and Tonic Equestrian.

Join us while we talk equestrian and rider confidence, what works for us and rider mental health..

We need to learn to train and work on ourselves the same as we do with our horses. Confident rider, confident horse.

Horse rider confidence and equestrian confidence needs to be spoken about more, I am excited to bring you, You Got This Equestrian where we discuss real topics and give real tips that work for real riders.

Join me as every week I share blogs and videos, hint and tips.

Plus chat with some inspirational people about their stories and make my way through an equestrian journey.

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